oldslabsides wrote: 
Yeah....don't bury me....plant a tree or something.  I know exactly where I'll be scattered and it's got nothing even to do with the ground.

 winter wrote: 
I want my friends to smoke my ashes. 

 Beez wrote: 
I just find the idea of my rotting corpse taking up a plot of land for a very, very long time to be somehow arrogant.  Or something.

 winter wrote: 
Kiss my ass, kiss his ass, kiss her ass, watermelon-pineapple.

 Beez wrote: 
Me, too. Not sure where I'll want my ashes scattered, but they'd best not end up on somebody's mantle.

 Alexandra wrote: 
That makes sense. I always just kind of smile and nod at them - dudes, it's not your wedding, really it's all about the happy couple. (It feels like congratulating the hot dog vendors when the team wins a game.)

In the unlikely event that I get married, I'll want the reception line to be for the bride and I.

 oldslabsides wrote: 
Same here. 

 oldslabsides wrote: 



I could hardly even make eye contact with her momma at first, after having just had a meltdown in the back of church with meower.

 winter wrote: 

"How are you related to the bride/groom?"
"Wasn't that a beautiful ceremony?"
etc etc...

 Alexandra wrote: 

 winter wrote: 

I usually say something like - sure glad this isn't a funeral, and when do you think we'll eat - that ceremony was waaaay to long. 

 justlistening wrote: 
I guess so. Although I'm not sure how dignified it is to just lie there while people parade past to look at you. At least in a reception line (like a wedding) you can converse with the happy couple.

SLIGHT SIDETRACK: wtf do you say to everyone else (like the ushers and the bridesmaids) in a reception line? "Nice job walking and standing"? "Way to be friends with someone who got married"? At least you can congratulate the bride's and groom's parents. 

 oldslabsides wrote: 

There was one viewing I just couldn't bring myself to attend, not too long ago. Just couldn't do it. I think you know whose.....

 winter wrote: 

exactamundo.

 Prodigal_SOB wrote: 

That's why, after watching "127 Hours" I now TELL people when I'm hiking/biking alone, and where I am.

I've always sort of assumed that it will be months before anyone finds me and I will already have been eaten by a starving dog.
 

 oldslabsides wrote: 
if you urn it, they'll tax it

 justlistening wrote: 

Exactly!

We had viewings at both of my grandparents' funerals. I attended both, but I avoided actually gong up and viewing the body myself. I didn't want to remember the lifeless body lying in a casket - I wanted to remember them alive and happy and loving.

 Proclivities wrote: 

I guess, as Alexandra has said, there is the psychological aspect of closure for the family. At the open-casket wakes I've been to the casket is usally open at the front of a room surrounded by flowers and the room is set up to pay respects.  I think a curtain is a good idea - affording the deceased some dignity they can't demand on their own.